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Well the title of this post says it all. Can any person be trusted 100%? I mean how many people here can honestly say he/she trusts him/herself 100%? I trust my boyfriend 100% in certain areas, but anyone can change at any given time. You can have respect for someone without trusting them at all or a little. Like a person can have respect for a stranger and not trust the stranger. As I have always said, sometimes the instant you try and trust someone, they turn around and betray you. I would like to hear some thoughts on this as it's a contraversial topic.
I always say you can't ever know a persons heart. I learned this the hard way.
It depends on what you mean by trust, and in what areas, and the relationship type.
I don't guess you can, depending on the relationship. I also think you only find a few people in your life you can trust 100% and most times these won't be lovers, but a friend, or in my case, a parent, or my sister.
I think the levels of trust depend on what area, and when you give trust, you also have to set up some security measures, mental, or physical, again depending on the area.
Hopefully you never have to see your security measures work, just like a house alarm, but I think for the sake of any relationship, it is a smart thing to do.
This way you can learn the person you wanted to trust can't be trusted in that area, so can decide what to do about it without major harm, or emotional hurt.
Sure, if we are talking love relationships, there will be hurt, but that hurt can be managed.
That is my opinion.
It really depends. Like anything, you earn trust. Sadly not as easy as you can lose it, but there ya go. Anyhow, I don't think we can trust anyone 100%. Simpley because we're imperfect. Ok, maybe I said it wrong. It really depends on what levil of trust you're refering to. But we all have are areas of strenkth and weekness. I do believe in being careful. I mean you just never know when anyone, including yourself may act in a way that can hurt you. That's what I think
I can, and do, trust myself 100%, but with anyone else, I keep myself pulled back, at least a little bit.
as the OP says, putting one's full trust in another human being is usually the time said trust is betrayed, in some way.
the reason I'm able to trust myself completely, is cause I know that at the end of the day, I won't disappoint myself.
if I'm not happy with something I've done, I can either work to change it, or at least accept it for what it is.
I can trust myself, because I know my heart. It's evil, but still.
I might be the odd one out here, but I don't think there is a way to measure trust as a percentage. I think it's safer to keep it more general, yet be specific about what you will allow yourself to trust in regards to a person, and what you will not if that makes sense. You should no doubt trust yourself more than anyone else, and trust your gut instincts because they will tell you when something is up or not right. So many of us including myself at times ignore our instincts, but one lesson I've learned lately is to trust them more, and to do what is in your best interest. Trust is not something you should earn over night, or in other words you shouldn't meet someone at a bar and trust them the next day as you would trust someone who you know for years. Usually something like that happens when someone is looking for exceptance, and as nice as it is to feel important to someone you could feel important to someone for the wrong reasons. On the other hand, you shouldn't shut every person out that offers to help you because you don't want to be taken advantage of again. The world is not just manipulative, evil, selfish people. There are still good genuine people out there. The more questions you ask people, the easier it will be to figure out their intentions with you. Just a few thoughts I have in mind that hopefully answer this question.
No matter how much someone loves or cares about you, they will break a promise, lie to you, etc. at least occasionally. Sometimes they may think they are doing it for your own good, but still if you find out they lied, broke a promise, didn't keep a secret, etc. you are going to feel you can't trust them again. So you just need to realize that and decide how important these people are to you and whether or not you want to keep them in your life.
One hundred percent seems pretty idealistic to me. Works well as a wish but doesn't translate well into reality. People are complex, inconsistent and sometimes unpredictable. Trust has to build and has to be earned, so trust your own gut first.
I don't think simply asking questions will tell you much, regarding how trustworthy someone is or isn't. however, spending time with them in various situations, thinking up different scenarios to ask "what would you do if such and such happened," are a few things that might at least give you an idea of the kind of person they are.
Nope. I agree with Wayne on some of this. I may wish to be a decent guy, but sometimes I'm a dick, sometimes I'm misunderstood, sometjmes I just forget.
Right, trust cannot be in anyway measured. And it doesn't make sence to fully trust oneself and not another person, because even if we mess up and we can change it, we still at some point feel disappointed with ourselves. You can never know for sure how you'll feel, nor how your actions can affect you emotionally.. Ever. There's that part of us too. It just seems unrealistic to me.
yes, I can, and as I said, do, trust myself completely. as Wayne so accurately said, that's cause I know my heart.
it's perfectly fine for others to speak for themselves and say they don't, or can't trust themselves, but to think they can guess where someone else is at, is ridiculous.
You can't say you can't trust yourself 100% because it is yourself that creates the situation.
Unless you are in a trance, or something, you know exactly what you are going to do before you do it. Even when you think it wrong, you know you'll still do it anyway.
Sure wayne. I understand. What I'm saying is that even though sometimes we don't think about, or see the consiquences of our actions, in the end we don't really know how we'll react to the situation. We also don't know how others will be affected by the negative outcomes of something we've done. And until we know is when we make a change, because everyone is different and will take things differently. This is not all the time, though. Of course we know what we're going to do. And we know how we feel at the moment. But either way, We all have different levils of trust with one another and ourselves.
True, but it's possible to mistrust my own personal bias or motive, and seek out a neutral party to consult with before taking action. I do this, because I'd like to think I'm rational and a pretty okay guy, but that in and of itself can blind me to assuming, or keep me ignorant of how I came across, even to people close to me when I get short unnecessarily.
If a person did trust him/herself 100 all the time, then there would be no need for conpanionship because in their mind, they would think that they know everything about himself and that they would never need to improve their character. I mean a friend could help a person determine if the said person is going in the right dirrection with his/her life.
That's how some people are, though, and they don't think they need to change anything about themselves. There is a difference between trying to be a people pleaser and acting like the person you think people want you to be, versus considering what people have to say about you but changing if you find your doing to be a problem. Not everyone can make this dinstinction. I agree you can't realistically trust yourself or anyone for that matter 100 percent. You should no doubt trust yourself above everyone first. But realize no matter how smart you are, no matter how much common sense you have, and no matter what cards life deals you, you can fuck up sometimes. You can try to be the best person you can be and make what you think is a sound decision, but nobody is perfect. You could end up dating someone who turns out to be a jerk, but would you rather take a chance? The only way to find out whqat you like, want, dislike, etc. is to try some things out.
Yes and no I'd say.
The reason I feel I can trust myself 100% is for exactly the reasons you say I can't. I don't think I know it all, and I'm always open to learning and change.
I sit down and think about what I'm going to do, and I also think about what I'm going to say, if what I'm going to say is a major saying.
Knee jerk choices, I have put behind me.
Now, when I make a mistake anyway, that mistake wasn't because of not trusting myself, it was because of a bad decision, or information I didn't have that changed things for me, but to me and for me, I didn't do anything wrong, and I didn't set out to harm myself.
Other people, I don't trust 100%, and it isn't important to even do so. I expect everyone to fall short so to speak. It is human, and I fall short all the time.
I completely agree with the last few posts. Because there's always room for improvement.
speaking for myself only, I'm not saying that trusting oneself completely equals perfection, in any way. and, honestly, it's ridiculous that anyone would think that's what's being implied.
when I say I totally trust myself, what I mean, is, I have enough self assuredness to know that, regardless of how things turn out, I'll learn from my experiences, if I realize things could've been done differently.
occasionally, I'll ask for other people's opinions on things, but I do so only to get other perspectives.
ultimately, I know what's best for my life, and I know that the decisions I choose to make are always well thought out, from angles which most people find nearly impossible to figure out on their own.
I really try to be that person who you can put 100% trust into. I'm not perfect, but I really try. I know a lot of scammers out there though who want to take advantage of pretty much anyone. It's a scary world out there. I think I'm too trusting of others, because I am loyal back. I find myself being betrayed by people and it really hurts.
For me though I always try to get a general opinion. One person is just not enough. You have to talk to many voices so you can get a general consensus, because at least at that point you don't have any radical viewpoints and you shave off the more destructive "scam" parts. That's what I've found myself anyhow.